这是对于 This is a, a little bit of taste of
牛津大学互联网学院所处理的一些数据的评析 some data that we've been running at the Oxford Internet institute
我是那里的研究员 I'm a, I'm a researcher there
我们看到的是一项关于 we are looking at a cross-national study of
网络情侣及其恋爱关系的跨国研究 Internet-enabled couples and their relationship practices
不能说恋爱就像条形图 So nothing says love like bar charts
但是 如果你认为像的话 So, I thing you'd, in which case
那你就来对地方了 if that's the case then you came to the right place
我们先前发布的报告中有一部分是关于 Part of what we're doing with this early report that we released is
对网络约会的评估 getting in assessment of the state of play
及网络恋情的发展状况 for online dating and online relationships
10或15年前的小报故事 10, 15 years ago there were tabloid stories
我在网上找到真爱了 I found love online
而在现在 And now days, you know
随着社交软件和各种约会软件的发展 since social network software and all sorts of dating software
比如Match.com eHarmony Match.com, eHarmony
网络恋情更加普及了 it's become a little more broadly diffused
但仍然存在着污名和神话 but there are still stigmas and also still myths about this
所以我今下午要打破一些神话 So I'm going to play a bit of myth-buster this afternoon
并确认一些网络情侣 and perhaps validate some couples who might have been online
一些人会认为 So, this might be, some people's notions of
网络上的最佳伴侣 the best match for your online who is
等待着你的求婚者 the suitor that's waiting for you
这是很经典也很普及的 Now this is a, this is a classic and well-diffused picture of
网络可怜小伙子的想法 some poor chap on the Internet
但是当然 but, then of course we
我们开始担忧 further on we start to concern ourselves
网络世界的真实性 with issues of authenticity in the online world
我们是在与真实时空中的真实人物联络吗？ are we actually even interacting with real people in real spaces?
《纽约客》上经典的讽刺画说 The classic cartoon from the New Yorker say
在网上 没人知道你是只狗 on the Internet, no one knows you are a dog
但是如果你是dogbook上的一只狗 But of course now if you are a dog on dogbook
你有很多狗朋友 你最爱的食物是Purina and you have a bunch of dog friends and your favorite food is Purina
人们现在可能知道你是只狗 chances are people now do know you are a dog
所以在这些年里 And so in the intertwining years
这种观念增加了 it seems that this notion has, has diffused
真实性增加了 authenticity has risen
人们现在大规模的使用网络约会网站 and people now are using online dating sites rather, rather substantially
我们对18个国家的网络情侣进行了调查 So we did a survey of Internet-enabled couples in 18 countries
我们要求双方都完成调查 this is a survey where we ask
我们要求双方都完成调查 both individuals to fill out, fill out the survey
在每个国家大约选取1千人 and it was about 1,000 people per country
所以大约有1万2千份回复 so we have about 12,000 responses
在过去的5年里 And in the last 5 years
有趣的是 在本研究中有25%的新情侣 Interestingly, 25% of the couples, the new couples in this study
是在网上认识的 met online
在线约会网站仍然是最流行的网上交友方式 online dating sites are still the most popular way that people meet online
尽管还有很多别的方式 although there were lots of other ways
facebook 聊天室 论坛 游戏等等 through facebook, chatrooms, forums, gaming and so forth
现在大多数人会认识 And a majority of people now actually know somebody
通过网络发展恋情的朋友 who has met their, met a partner or met and had a relationship online
这条曲线是 So this line is a, perhaps a little tiny you can see as sort of
从1997年开始逐步上升的曲线 a gentle gradual slope coming up from 1997
正是那时出现了数据库 that's around the time that we start getting databases
让你能查看并搜索 and ways to sort of and search and say
我想找的人 I wanna find someone who's, I don't know
是6.5英尺 喜欢歌剧 爱吃软糖 等等 6 foot 5, loves opera, eats jelly beans and so forth
只要我去了合适的地方就能找到这个人 and you know, going to the right place I can find that person
放大一下 To zoom in on that
这是过去10年的发展状况 this is what looks like, looks like now days in the past 10 years
曲线平稳的上升到了30%左右 this line has steadily risen to about 30%
这是我们研究中的情侣 so these are, these are the percentage of couples in our study
开始恋爱年份的百分数 by the year that they started their relationship
显然在近几年来 and certainly most recently these couples
有超过30%的情侣是在网络上开始的 over 30% of them have been, have started online
英国在这项研究中的地位如何呢 So how does Britain compare in this study?
不同的国家列出在这里 To give you the sense of the, first the countries that are in here
还有在网上认识配偶或伴侣的人数 and the number of people who met their spouses or partners online
这是目前在谈恋爱 These are the percentage of people in a current relationship
恋情始于1997年后的人数百分比 where their relationship started since 1997
就在那时曲线的趋势开始上升 that was when that started to, when that trend started to increase
而英国处在中间位置 and Britain is right in the middle of there
我们的调研中有大概22%的人 so about 22% of people in our sample
开始恋爱是在1997年之后的这14年中 of those who started in, I guess the last 14 years since 1997
开始了网络恋情 who had their, who started their relationship online
尽管英国处于相对中间的位置 Now, while Britain dose tend to be relatively in the middle here
以通过网络开始恋情的人数来说 in terms of the number of people who start their relationships online
英国人似乎对此比较沉默 the British tend to be a bit mum about this
他们不太愿意将这事告诉别人 They're not as likely to mention this to other people
但也不像日本人和德国人一样安静 not as quiet as the Japanese and the Germans
有点奇怪的是 which sort of odd about this
要注意到 德国人对此非常沉默 if you notice, Germany is very mum about this
回到这张较早的图 returning to this earlier chart
在1997年后 30%的情侣开始了网络恋情 since 1997, 30% of couples started online
但他们保守秘密 but they're keeping it to themselves
另一端的人们就不是这样的 and they are way over on the other side
我为什么要提到这一点？ So, why do I, why do I mention this?
这个百分比反映了有朋友 And this is, this is the percentage of people who know someone
在进行网络恋情的人数 who was in a relationship online
我提到这点是因为一个有趣的发现是 I mention this because what we found that's very interesting is that
网络约会是一项关于体验的科技 online dating is an experience technology
一旦你体验过这种科技 it's an example of technology where if you have some experience with it
无论是好是坏 good or bad
都倾向于引发积极的情感 it tends to lead positive sentiment
这与在线银行业务与网络购物是一样的 this is the same for online banking or online shopping
如果你不感兴趣 where if you are not into it
就很难说服别人 it's very difficult to persuade someone
我电脑会染上病毒 Oh, I'm going to get viruses
小妖精会跳上我的电脑什么的 and the goblins will jump up at my computer and so forth
司炉要见我 there're stoker will meet me
每个人都能变的有吸引力 anyone will be attractive
但对于尝试过网络约会的人 So, but now those people who simply tried online dating
他们倾向于认为这是一种交友的好方法 tend to agree that it's a good way to meet people
倾向于认为他们的朋友也能接受 and tend to believe that their friends are comfortable with it
那些现任伴侣来源于网络的人 And well, those who have their current partner who they met online
对此持非常积极的态度 tend to be very positive about this
真正的区别在于(听不清) the real, the real (INAUDIBLE) is between
尝试过与没尝试过的人的区别 those who tried and those who has't
所以我们将其说成是 which is why we talk about it as
一项关于体验和展示的科技 as a technology of experience and of exposure
对于价值观也是一样 And we have a similar story for values
那些尝试过或有过相关体验的人 those people who tried or had some sort of experience with it
对此持非常积极的态度 tend to feel very positive about it
而那些没尝试过的人 whereas those who haven't
则不情愿尝试并对此充满怀疑 tend to be very reluctant and skeptical
这是一项一次性的调查 This is a one shot survey
所以我们不能 so what we can't do is look at
看不到它随时间的变化 we can't look at this change over time
我不能说是谁是因谁是果 又是鸡与蛋的故事 I can't say which one caused which, the chicken and egg story here
但这看起来非常有说服力 But it does seem to be relevantly persuasive that
适度的网络交流似乎能引起积极的感情 mirror exposure to online tends to be related to positive sentiments
但有趣的部分在于 这也是关于 But what, what's interesting is that this is a story about online
网络约会和广泛约会 about online dating and about dating broadly
我来自北美洲 加拿大 Now I'm from, I'm from north America, I'm from Canada
约会就像面试 是日常生活的一部分 dating like job interviews is very common part of life there
我提到这个是因为 and I mention that because over here I've
我听说约会本身并不是一个被广泛传播的概念 I've heard that dating is not itself a necessarily broadly diffused concept
比如你去见某人 you know you go out to someone
你告诉他们你的喜好和兴趣 就像你的简历 you give them your likes, your interest, your resume
他们接收了 they took off the boxes and
如果进展顺利 你能获得二面的机会 if it all works out in the end, you get the second job interview
运气好的话什么时候能见家长 and hopefully at some point you meet the parents
但是 幸好约会并不是这么严肃 But, no, instead of, dating isn't actually that serious, thankfully
我们认为还存在着一种替代效应 But what we thought was that there be a substitution affect
我们看到随着1997网络约会的兴起 that what we would see is that since 1997 as online dating risen
私人联系会减弱 personals would go down
会更少去见朋友的朋友 and meeting through friends of friends would go down
结果发现这些并没有减弱 and it turns out those are the things that are not going down
这一些 those things are also
随着网络约会的兴起 这些也在上升 they've also increased since online dating started to rise
而真正减少的是见家人介绍的人 But what did decrease was meeting people through family
见兴趣小组的人 见教堂团体的人 through hobby groups, and through church groups
这些基于大团体的活动 and these are, through these broad group based activities
我们看到取代它们而上升的是 and in their place what we see rising
这些活动是一对一的 非常私人化 are these activities are just one on one, very personable
我作为一个个体去见另一个个体 and the idea that I'm going to be a individual meeting another individual
顺利的话开始一段恋情 and hopefully start a relationship with them
这种想法正是网络约会的基础 is the colonel, is the basis behind which online dating resigns
这种想法与网络约会一样 And so that is what seems to be on the rise
也在上升 as much as online dating itself
我最后想讲的一点 And finally the last thing I just wanna to mention
我想问是谁在这样做 and asking about who is doing this
因为年轻人对电脑更感兴趣 Well, it's just because young people are more interested in computers
更聪明 more savvy
才导致了网络约会的流行吗？ is that why, is that why online dating in on the rise?
因为他们在网络约会啊 Because they are dating online
当然 年轻人单身的机率更大 Well of course, younger people are more likely to be single
所以更可能进行网络约会 and therefore more likely to be a potential candidate for online dating
看看那些谈恋爱的人们的年龄 so when we look at the ages of the people who started a relationship
进行网络恋情的人数百分比 the percentage of those who did it online
显然都是年轻人 see obviously that is young people
样本中20多岁的人有25%恋情始于网络 25% of those in their 20s in our sample started their relationship online
30多岁的人中有18%恋情始于网络 and about 18% of those in their 30s started it online
但当我们去看恋情开始年龄时 But when we look at the age when the relationship started
出现了完全不同的图景 a different picture emerges
年长的人单身的机率要小 Older people tend not to be single
但对于那些单身并在恋爱的人来说 but of those who are single and are starting a relationship
他们更喜欢网络约会 they are the ones who were more likely to be using online dating
而不是年轻人 than the young
非常有趣 Very interestingly
从1997年之后开始恋情的人们之中 almost 40% of the people who started a relationship since 1997
高于40岁的人中有将近40%是从网上开始的 almost 40% of those in the age 40 or above did so online
所以网络世界似乎是一种 so the online world seems to be
与他人单独见面的 an accessible
一种可行而有用的方法 useful way in order to meet somebody individually one on one
特别是对那些年长的人来说 and especially for those who, who are older
下面总结一下 So just to summarize
大家知道网络约会在盛行 you know online dating is been, is been on the rise
有所体验的人似乎对之有更高的评价 people who have experience with it seems to hold it in a higher regard
随着这种做法的传播 And as this practice has diffused
它变得流行起来 it's become popular
不是为那些可怜的网络傻瓜的神话 and less about the myths of the poor Internet nerds
更多的是关于个人 more about, more about individual
将其作为与别人认识的一种工具 sort of meeting this, using this as a way to meet individuals
在其他工具之外 in addition to other practices
这种做法在年轻人中很流行 and it's popular among the young
对超过40岁的人很有用 and very useful for those over 40
还有一些深层的想法 And so just some, some deep thoughts about this, if I could
总是能找到的 其中一些显示在上面 if I could try to find some I would, but include of those are some up here
网络世界的作用是可以寻找事物 What the online world does is make thing findable
可以寻找人 寻找信息 make people findable, make information findable
它对于想恋爱的人来说非常有用 And so this is certainly working for people trying to find relationships
到这里就结束了 谢谢你们的聆听 it's all just end there and thank you for your time
谢谢 Thank you